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Use the coach on a draft message
Before a message goes out, the coach reads it the way the other person might and shows how it could land.
Steps
- Write your message in your chat with your partner or family.
- Check the note about how it may land, on a calm, tense or heated scale.
- If the coach suggests a kinder rewrite, choose to use it, edit it, or send your own words.
Good to know
The coach tunes its suggestions to the person who will read it: their style, how they text and what lands well for them. It can be wrong. It makes suggestions, never decisions, and it will not help anyone manipulate another person. After you send, tap your own message to see how the other person may read it.
Related
Tandem is not therapy and not for emergencies. If you feel unsafe at home, call 1-800-799-7233. In a crisis, call or text 988.