Say what you mean, in a way they can hear.
Tandem is a communication coach for the people you love. Before a message sends, it shows how it might land and offers a kinder way to say it. When something they write stings, it helps you see what they may really mean.
Free during beta · Works in your browser today · Adults & teens 13+ with family · Not therapy
A few minutes to set up. Better conversations from the first message.
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Learn your style
Take a short personality quiz about how you talk, listen and handle conflict. You get one of four communication styles and a picture of what helps you.
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Invite your people
Share a 6-character code with your partner, or with up to four family members. Everyone has their own login and their own private space.
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Talk with a coach beside you
Message each other in Tandem, plan time together and reflect afterwards. The coach uses what it knows about each of you to suggest words that fit.
Everything you need to understand each other
Small, practical tools for the conversations that matter. No scores, no blame, no one keeping tabs.
Coached messages
See how a message might land before it sends, and get a kinder rewrite that still says what you mean.
More about messages →What they really mean
Tap any message for three readings: what they’re saying, what they’re feeling, and what they may need.
See an example →Live conversation coaching
Gentle cues during a real, in-person talk, only when everyone agrees on their own phone. Speech is turned into text on the phone.
How live coaching works →Profiles for each person
A personality test, a “How we feel loved” quiz and a “How to support me” guide, shared with the people in your circle.
About profiles →Together
Fresh ideas for time together every week. Pick your favorites privately, see your matches, and keep a calendar of what you did.
About Together →Goals and check-ins
Personal and shared goals with cheers from your people, plus a private check-in a couple of hours after a hard talk.
About goals →Little things that add up
The small touches that make Tandem feel like it knows the people in your circle.
Things to say
A phrase library for apologizing, asking for space or reconnecting, when you can’t find the words.
Message reactions
A heart, a laugh or a hug, for the moments that don’t need a reply.
How you text
Short or long, emoji or none, what a slow reply means. The coach reads your messages the way you mean them.
Get to know you
Three new questions every few days, so your people learn a little more about you over time.
Your coach’s voice
Warm, straight to the point, or playful. Pick how you like advice delivered.
“You and Alex”
For each person in your circle: where you’re alike, where you differ, and a tip for each difference.
Session summaries
Takeaways, one thing to work on and a follow-up message you can send. Saved only if you keep it.
Past picks
Every week’s ideas and matches in one place, next to the calendar of what you did together.
Activity bell
New messages, cheers, your turn to pick and check-ins, all in one place with badges on each tab.
Cheers
Celebrate each other’s goals with a tap, and say exactly how you’d like to be supported.
Dark mode
Easy on the eyes for late-night talks. Switch it on the Me tab.
Phone or computer
Use it in any browser today. On a big screen, the coach sits right next to your conversation.
Your conversations stay yours
A coach for your relationship has to be trustworthy. These are rules we built into the product, not settings you have to find.
During a live session, speech is turned into text on the device. Audio is never uploaded and never saved.
A live session starts only when every person agrees on their own logged-in phone. Anyone can end it at any time.
Text goes to the AI coach through our own servers. Live transcripts are deleted when the session ends.
It’s off by default. If you turn it on, examples are stripped of names and details first. Delete your account in the app anytime.
Built to help both of you, never one against the other
Tandem coaches everyday communication. It isn’t therapy and doesn’t replace a professional. It won’t help anyone pressure, guilt or manipulate another person, and when a conversation sounds unsafe it points to real help.
If you feel unsafe at home, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
In a crisis, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline).
Questions people ask
Is Tandem therapy?
No. Tandem is a communication coach. It helps with the words of everyday conversations. It isn’t counseling or mental-health care, and it isn’t a substitute for a licensed professional. If you’re in danger or crisis, call 1-800-799-7233 or 988.
Does Tandem record our conversations?
No. Tandem only listens during a live session that everyone has agreed to on their own phone. Speech is turned into text on the phone, and the audio is never uploaded or saved. The text of a live session is deleted when it ends. Only a summary is kept, and only if you choose to keep it.
Who can see my messages and profile?
Messages you send in Tandem are visible to the people in your circle. Your communication style and the guides you fill in are shared with your circle so they know how to talk with you. Private reflections, check-ins and feelings you choose to keep to yourself are only visible to you.
Do we both need an account?
Yes. Each person has their own login and joins the same circle with a 6-character code. That’s what lets the coach know who is writing, who is reading, and what will land well for each of you.
Is it only for couples?
No. A circle can be a couple (2 people) or a family of up to 5. Parents and adult children, siblings and blended families all use the same tools.
How much does it cost?
Tandem is free during the beta. Paid plans will come later, and we’ll tell you well before anything changes. See plans.
Is there an iPhone or Android app?
The phone apps are on the way. Until then you can use Tandem in any browser on your phone or computer. Live, in-person coaching needs the phone app for on-device speech-to-text; on the web you can try it with a demo conversation.
Is my data used to train AI?
Not unless you turn on “Help improve Tandem”, which is off by default. If you do, examples are saved without your name or account, with personal details removed, and are used to improve the coach.
Who can use Tandem?
Adults, and teens 13+ in a family circle with a parent.
Start your circle today
Create an account, take the quiz, and invite the people you love. Free during beta.